No one ever told me I was pretty when I was a little girl. All little girls should be told they're pretty, even if they aren't. - Marilyn Monroe
I think there's really something in the psyche of women regarding beauty. I am curious what are the different insights of men and women regarding beauty. The typical idea is that men want to have those muscles firm and toned so they'll feel good about themselves. Women on the other hand wants to be pretty by putting those make-ups and such, to add up their self-esteem. Is it really about self-confidence? Or how other people might view you?
Beauty is famously in the eye of the beholder; but it’s also in the beholder’s brain
That quote, I found from one of the articles I read. They traced the idea of 'beauty' back to our ancestors where men were 'hunters' and women were 'collectors'. Right now I don't want to take a deeper view of ancestry, but the quote just really caught my attention. I agree that it is also in the beholder's brain -- how his or her brain was influenced. Cultures and media, those are big factors. However if you're going to spell it out using genes, I may not be able to elaborate on that.
Well moving on, I guess beauty has two sides. It's either overrated or underrated; And I'm talking about it physically.
Overrated, because based on observation, sometimes women go beyond the lines -- or I can say, beyond my lines. Perhaps I just don't understand what their concept of being beautiful is, but I do not see anything 'over' as attractive. Well probably they need to find what suits them best, or just a friend to tell them it's too much.
Underrated in terms of mocking beauty. For instance, in terms of fashion, why mock a girl wearing shorts in public? If that's what she prefer. He is entitled for his/her opinion but, she is also free to wear what she wants. Another example are arts of the female body. Well I think there is a difference between pornography and a female body. Both are nude but the concept is different. People would probably get ashamed looking at a picture of a female body, having the thought of pornography in mind.
Beauty presents a standard of comparison, and it can cause resentment and dissatisfaction when not achieved.Well, this is true. When a person does not feel beautiful, it causes stress. Appearance has been a part of who we are and it has become a criteria of judging.
Sometimes the worst judge could be ourselves. We'll never be satisfied of how we look because at the back of our minds, there would be voices telling us 'you're not pretty' and stuff. We worry about how people will view us, and sometimes thinking about it is too much we can't define what is 'pretty' anymore. Or is this more on what we spell as insecure? Or having low self-esteem regarding physical appearance? If those voices are loud enough it may be.
And then here comes jerks who'd rather add up to the thought rather than make a suggestion. Petty human beings who are not concerned of what you think. And then they'll conclude later on that women are just bitches. Probably think twice, because self-esteem is harder to build than putting on make-up.
Wow
I think I put on some though about this.
I can only state what my mind thinks and there is no definite words that will describe what it is. But I do have an understanding that beauty, is something to be appreciated and it is not to be mixed up with porn nor define it using an actress or make-ups.
So as not to dishearten a girl's heart, you might wonder first about what her definition of beauty is. She might be smiling because she's in her own skin, and own concept and own definition of being beautiful -- be careful because if you judge and let your big mouth work, it'll crush her self-esteem and make her genuine beliefs shatter.
Oh but I do not agree if women suddenly becomes full of themselves because of praises. Of course stay down to earth. Beauty is for appreciation, and not tokens to buy attention. You stay beautiful to give yourself some respect, to show people that you love yourself so you choose to be beautiful!
HAHA.
Seems like my post goes to a lot of directions. I'm not really good at sticking to one idea. Words just come out. No transition but at least the main idea is still there. Pardon for that.
But honestly, I think my last statement really sums it all out. I think now I have an answer if I am asked, "Define beauty"
'Till my next thought!
galing mo tlg magsulat ever. pero super true ng blog post mo na to. post mo sa FB? haha. strong rin yung feelings ko pag dating sa ganito. lahat ng girls pwede maging maganda. yung society lang talaga kasi may standards. at ang bababaw ng standards na yun. beauty is complex di lang ganun. although may mga scientific evidence like facial symmetry that explains beauty, pero di lang nman kasi yun yung factor. most importantly napansin ko yung pinaka pleasing para sa mata ko yug may inner beauty. wala ko pake kung super ganda or model-like yung features ng tao, kung panget ugali niya nawawala attractiveness ng mukha niya saken.
ReplyDeleteang masasabi ko lang society is FUCKED UP. at super naiirita na ko kung gano ka ignorante mga tao ngayon. maliit na bagay lang masyado pinapansin, "ay ang panget ng legs niya kasi may parang taba" kahit di naman pansin pinapansin. kung maka pang husga ng physical appearance. ano ba magagawa ng physical appearance? nangangagat ba yun? nananahimik yung tao tas sasaktan mo pa. yng pag wear ng shorts, suotin nila kung trip nila. panget lang ng legs ko alam ko pagtitinginan ng iba, although i know i shouldn't care masyado pa kong sensitive para dun. pero kung ok legs ko hell yeah magsusuot ako ng short shorts. people should learn manners, never naging tama bastusin ang babae na nagsusuot ng short shorts, di purke nagpakita ng balat ang babae pokpok na siya. unless bumubukaka bukaka siya sa daan haha. pero seriously, nagpakita lang ng legs pokpok na? oo revealing lang pero di nakikipag sex sa ibat ibang lalake.
tao ngayon sobrang babaw na. nakakastress grabe. FUCKING LOSERS. at dahil ganito ako mag salita ako nagiging loser sa paningin nila. ang hirap itolerate ng society. daming pressure na WALANG KWENTA. kaya matapang ako sa mga ganyan, sensitive ako sa ganyang pressures. kahit small comment lang, naiinis na ko. especially yung comments na, "kababae mong tao...". I hate being boxed. Daming stupid standards sa babae. people should just fucking do what they want. yung mga tao kung makapag bitaw ng salita about freedom and dreams, pero sila lang rin nag hihinder sa iba to be theirselves. you can't be happy if you're always doing what other people tells you to. i can't stand people who are that shallow and ignorant. simple comment -> maiimprint na sa utak ko na shallow yung tao. SOCIETY IS FUCKED UP. daming useless standards and making us miserable. kung mas wise lang yung kinalakihan nating culture, people would be happier. babaw lang talaga.
Wow parang blog post comment mo! HAHA. Thanks for reading. At mukhang may same point of views nga tayo. PRESSURE ang main reason bakit nakakadepress ang physical appearace kaya ang mga babae nag mamake effort. Well kung yung iba, natural na sa kanila yun, i mean hilig na nila..
ReplyDeleteI don't know. Iba iba tao e.
Kung may ayaw ka sa isa -- then ayaw mo, pero hindi mo kailangan ipagsigawan na panget etc etc.
Hehe.